After remaining silent for 1 month…
If anyone in this town looks this school up for reviews (as they have made sure every online review site is rigged with only positive reviews and comments…I know this because there are too many disgruntled parents in this town for them to have a perfect record & I posted a negative review number on one site, and within 5 hours of posting, it was removed), or me personally out of curiosity over recent rumors that have been spread in our small community, I’d like the TRUTH to be known:
A) My son did NOTHING to be dismissed from Victory Christian School. Whatever the excuse is you’ve heard, it’s a lie.
B) I did NOTHING to cause my son to be dismissed from Victory Christian School. Whatever Mr. Eason dared to convince the faculty of VCS, or preached against me from the pulpit of Victory Baptist Church is a lie.
C) I was ambushed in the parking lot on November 3rd, 2011 by an angry, self-righteous school administrator who was upset that I pointed out he wasn’t doing his job very well in a short, hand-written note I sent with my son to school that day. It seems my choice in using the term “legalism” was his only issue. Instead of owning up to his mistake, or trying to discuss the circumstance to resolve the concerns of this Godly, loving, respectful mother, he chose to meet me by my car side as I picked my son up from school and announced my son was dismissed from school as of that moment, with the threat to never return to the school grounds, promising “no one will talk to you.”
D) I still haven’t heard confirmation from the school’s President, Reverend Reggie Parker, that my son has been officially dismissed! No formal letter, nothing. Just Mr. Eason’s verbal threat for us not to return to campus…even for my son’s school records…I’m supposed to CALL for them.
E) Despite his shocking, rude, and hostile tone with me, (which caused my son to cry because he couldn’t believe this man–who apparently acts this way with students all of the time in private–was able to treat his mother that way) I was never rude or hostile with him. Righteously indignant after I had enough of his multiple lies, as he kept changing the reason for my son’s dismissal throughout his ill-tempered speech, yes–but not hostile or rude, and certainly never fought him, or raised my voice to him, or cursed him out, as many rumors that have gotten back to both my son and me suggest!
F) My son was absent from school on November 4th, not because I took Mr. Eason’s threat seriously and accepted my son being dismissed…it was because he had a doctor’s appointment in Norfolk , and I had given the school a week’s advanced notice that he would be missing school that day. Although I believe this inexperienced, under-qualified administrator who has NO BUSINESS counseling, or teaching young adults in this or any other school at this time in his immature life, overreacted emotionally to my letter, I don’t believe he premeditated dismissing my son to coincide with his doctor’s appointment. I do believe once he realized his brash, unprofessional behavior with me the afternoon before may come back to haunt him, he took absolute advantage of my son not being in school that Friday and lied to the 7th-8th grade class about why my son was absent. I have the excuse note from his Doctor’s visit to prove it.
G) I have not returned to the campus due to the legal instructions I’ve received since. Because this “man” was bold enough to do what he’s done so far, there’s no telling what he might choose to orchestrate next against my son or me, so I have been instructed to deal directly with the Reverend only. The Reverend has not responded to my registered letter I sent him requesting a meeting to settle this un-Christlike situation once and for all. He also was not the person who signed for my letter. Either it was passed on to him and now he is choosing to join his second-in-command’s unprofessional and unGodly behavior, or a staff member might be going to prison for tampering with his mail soon.
H) I have not spread any rumors to anyone about this situation! I want this matter resolved as Jesus would want it resolved. I also want what’s best for my son, as well as other children. However, the toughest part about what my son and I endured in the parking lot that day has been what’s happened since: the non-stop stories we’ve received from other parents, students, and church members (some of them strangers!) in which this man has continued to bad-mouth us in public, encouraged students to gossip behind my son’s back, and has successfully painted me as some unsubmissive, vulgar monster so as to discredit every grievance I originally had with him and his job performance.
I) If my short letter questioning his handling of one situation was enough for him to want to totally excommunicate a Christian family, then I would suggest this sect of Baptists is not a legitimate group worshiping and focusing on Christ alone, nor are they adhering to the basic requirements to running a private school in the state of North Carolina, but a cult that expects total domination, and holds “zero-tolerance” (not for breaking Christ’s laws) for questioning their leadership.
For more information on how to decipher between an authentic Christian denomination and a cult, click here.
I especially like these cult characteristics…they seem awfully familiar:
*Coercion – Perceived disobedience, including even a minor disagreement with group doctrine, may result in expulsion and shunning.
*Phobias – The idea is planted that anyone who leaves goes into a life of depravity and sin. Constant rumors of bad things happening to people who leave. No one ever leaves for “legitimate reasons.”
J) This treatment is 100% against what VCS promises in their Handbook and what they advertise on their website:
“An oasis of friendship in a cold world: We refuse to allow bullying, and we teach students to appreciate others.” –FALSE!
“We are different on Discipline: a consistent, fair, and loving standard of discipline is maintained at the school.” –FALSE!
“We are different in Staff: The administration, each teacher, and each member of the staff has a personal interest in your child” –FALSE!
K) The parental agreement we sign in order for our child(ren) to be enrolled in this school is NOT a waiver of our parental rights, as Mr. Eason seems to think. We are paying tuition for Godly instruction and loving correction, just as their website insists to the outside world…not for a church authoritarian to break the minds and spirits of our children in order to have better control over them. It’s also not a legal contract that allows them to take our money for the full year’s tuition while they make up reasons to no longer spend those funds on instructing our children. That, my friends, is a con artist’s game (or a cult’s scam).
L) If this shockingly bizarre treatment could happen to us, it can happen to you. If your child is in VCS’s elementary school, and your experience has been a great one (as our’s was too) be mindful of this man’s authoritative behavior, unfriendly demeanor, and his lecturing attitude during PTF meetings. They are all warning signs…signs that I chose to ignore before my son entered the 7th grade, and Mr. Eason’s domain, this year.
Thank you.
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